Monday, January 23

Some Thoughts on Relationships... Well, Just One Thought, Really

I work with a bunch of kids. And when I say "a bunch of kids," I mean, "A bunch of 18-22-year-old college kids."
Now, there are intelligent, well-mannered, not-high college students (I even know some!), but they don't work at the Mom 'n' Pop Diner with me for four hours every Friday evening.
The kids I work with wear me out. But they also make me laugh. And there is so much they don't know. But they have time to learn.

One of the girls told me last weekend that she broke up with her boyfriend (again). When I asked her why, she answered simply, "I'm not happy." Although I could write a 5,000 word essay on those three words, I spared her.
"Is he mean?"
"Do you like him?"
"Yeah, I love him to death."
"That's not what I asked. I asked if you like him."
"Is that not the same thing?"

Oh, sister. No, it is not.

In the past, I dated several guys I liked (though never at once!), and a few who I loved. There were a few who I loved, but didn't like very much. 

It wasn't until I met Jeremy that I found a man I loved and liked in equal amounts. The amounts vary from day to day, and sometimes from hour to hour. There have been several occasions when I've yelled, "I DON'T LIKE YOU VERY MUCH RIGHT NOW. GO AWAY FROM ME." There are times I feel unloved, unlovable, and unloving. 

But it's the having balance that is key. If you love someone, but don't like who they are, there is practically no point in going on. If you like someone but feel no love, it may grow.... but it may not.

If you are single, hold out for someone whom you love, and whom you really really like, too.
If you are not-so-single, remind yourself why you love the one you do, and why you like that one the best

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  1. Love it. I had one of those madly in love relationships (or more than one) that inevitably crashed and burned because the guy was a jerk. You can love some terrible people if you're not careful.

  2. I have a friend who is married to a great guy, who on occasion does some jerkface stuff. He's human.
    One day she called and demanded that I list every good thing I could think of about him. Because if someone didn't say something nice soon, she was gonna stab him. I understood.
    Fortunately, she's done the same for me. And by the same, I mean, reminded my husband of some of my good qualities after I've just done a really jerkface thing.
    That's true love and true friendship all tied up together.

  3. Love it! I say the same thing to David. When I get annoyed I say, "I love you sweetheart, but I don't really like you right now!"

  4. Yay! I hear an echo of some Mama stuff!

  5. I like you AND love you, Savannah! <3


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